Raise your hand if you are the “default parent.” It’s incredibly exhausting, right? You could be doing a million and one things and your partner is watching tv yet your children always come to you for everything. When our children are younger we eagerly tend to their every need. But as our kids get older it changes, we need space and they need growth. It’s not so great to be ‘in charge’ of everything especially if partnered.

Moms partnered with Dads continue to provide the majority of childcare and housework. It can be intense and since the pandemic, our options for escape have dwindled considerably with the closures of restaurants, workplaces and gyms. And many couples are navigating unfamiliar territory to manage the strain by adjusting the rules. Unequal systems at home only lead to resentment. So how do we change it?

Visit parents.com to read my article, ”I’m My Kids’ Default Parent But I’ve Made My Husband Intervene More Often.” I share my experiences being the default parent and how I made my husband step up more.”