How The Mental Load Affects Moms & What You Can Do About It!


  1. Pam

    October 29, 2017 at 5:54 pm

    Wow you have described me perfectly! It so nice to know that it’s not just me.

    • momshierarchyofneeds

      October 29, 2017 at 8:43 pm

      Pam, it’s kind of you to send a note, you made my night! I also feel much better knowing that I’m not alone. We’re in excellent company, a lot of us live this and are eager to get out from underneath the mental load!

  2. Rachel Happe

    August 28, 2017 at 6:56 am

    This is excellent Leslie. I’ve been thinking about this in relation to women stalling out on the career ladder… and what is interesting to me is how much of this requires the same mental processing skills that are required to be an executive. And, really, it is no wonder women don’t want to take those roles on knowing they are already over-capacity. At the same time, this kind of experience would serve those roles really well.

    Unfortunately, I think a lot of systemic changes are required to solve this… having just gotten through a summer of juggling camp logistics and wanted to shoot myself because who needs six weeks + of weekly routine changes?

    • momshierarchyofneeds

      August 28, 2017 at 9:41 am

      Thank you Rachel, agreed! Love your hypothesis and I’m also intrigued by this aspect. I plan a deeper dive into the results specifically about career trade offs & relationship to work. I have so much great data, it was too much to share all at once, so that will likely be part 2 or 3. The need for systemic change is huge, the current infrastructure is not friendly for working Moms or families. We haven’t done camp yet (although my son would have loved it) precisely because I couldn’t handle the logistics associated with juggling it. 🙂

  3. myanxietymatters

    August 25, 2017 at 3:58 am

    Really interesting blog and definitely shows that Mums are superheroes. Thanks so much for sharing the survey results.

    • momshierarchyofneeds

      August 25, 2017 at 7:21 am

      Thank you for the kind words about my blog & the survey. Agreed, Mums are amazing! 🙂

  4. Ali Dorf

    August 25, 2017 at 12:28 am

    Leslie – This was tremendous -relatable, insightful, and well written. Thank you for sharing! While it didn’t reduce my stressed feelings, it both made me realize that I’m in good company and remember that there are (unfortunately) Moms who are struggling with many more challenging issues than I am.

    I also loved your comments about raising your son. As the mom responsible for raising two boys, I will be doing my best to “train them right” for their future partners!

    • momshierarchyofneeds

      August 25, 2017 at 7:28 am

      Thank you so much Ali! I appreciate your kind words. I also feel humbled m knowing that most of us are doing all that we do while facing incredible stress. Indeed our sons are the future and if we aspire to raise super-helpful, Dads and husbands this will change for the next generation.


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